Category Archives: Relationships

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4 Questions You Should Ask Others…If You Dare

We are in a series of posts looking at how a lack of self-awareness can be holding you back in every area of your life. Today, we are going to look at the second of three ways you can gain that crucial self-awareness.

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Yesterday, we looked at the tools to help you self-assess how you respond under pressure and what your strengths are. Today, I want you to ask 4 questions to someone you love. This is the most difficult and the scariest of the three ways to gain self-awareness. The results of the different tests you took yesterday can be kept to yourself and you can even disagree with the results. Going to someone you love and getting their feedback is a much more painful look in the mirror. But even though it’s painful, you still need to know the answers. 

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How To Find Out What Others Know About You

In the last post we looked at how a lack of self-awareness can be holding you back in every area of your life. Today we are going to look at the first of three ways you can gain that awareness.

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How well do you really know yourself? Do you know what ticks you off and makes you tick? What strengths do you bring to a team? What role would you best function in? What is your natural default when placed in stressful situations? Knowing how others interpret your actions when you are under pressure is one of the most important keys to self-awareness.

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Withholding Likes – New Rules of Facebook #5

Facebook by its design is more of a highlight reel than a documentary. Most people only post the best and it’s easy to think that someone else’s life is perfect.

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Worse, it’s even easier to feel like a loser and like you’ll never catch up. Facebook makes it seem like everyone else is living a Disney story except you. The reality is everyone has a cross to bear. If you aren’t careful these feelings can quickly turn to envy. Here is a great test to see if you suffer with envy on Facebook: Have you ever withheld a “like” from a post?

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Stop Taking a Stand on Facebook – New Rules of Facebook #2

Somewhere along the way a belief has emerged that social media is an effective means of persuasion, especially with hot button issues. At the very least if the platform doesn’t change a mind the user has “taken a stand” in the public square.

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More often than not we need to keep the point to ourself to truly make a difference. I recognize that it is so much easier to make a point, shoot–it can even be more fun to use one liners and to share memes. But telling someone they’re wrong is not the same as leading them or inspiring them to do what’s right. (To quote Andy Stanley)

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Don’t Answer This Question on Facebook – New Rules of Facebook #1

Have you ever cringed when you read something on Facebook? Have you ever felt embarrassed for someone based on what they posted (think workout selfies…what they had for breakfast…a political rant)?

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The most dangerous phrase on Facebook is written in the status bar: “What’s on your mind?”

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Text Experiment

One simple text can gauge how well you are doing using your words to encourage others. Go ahead grab your phone and I want you to think of 3 people that are your close friends. Got the names in your mind? Okay I want you to send them a txt. Not just any text but a specific one…word for word I want you to copy this and send it to them. Don’t delete any of it…especially the last sentence.

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Significantly Impact Your Child’s Adulthood

Where would you be today if someone had spoken into the insecurities you wrestled with as a child?

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Would the things that you struggle with now still be holding you back? I bet with some guidance from a healthy adult it would have helped shaped the way you viewed yourself and given you a healthier perspective. Would you be further along because of the time you had to spend wrestling those insecurities to the ground?

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Do you ever struggle with feeling discouraged? Do you ever wonder if you are making a difference and if your efforts even matter? Does it seem like the negatives outweigh the positives? I know I struggle with all of those things more frequently than I’d like to admit.

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I’ve found one thing particularly helpful when I find myself wallowing in discouragement and despair. All it takes is a quick glance and I find my outlook and perspective begins to change almost instantaneously.

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See It & Say It

What is the most powerful part of you? Maybe you would say it’s your brains, or maybe your infectious and influencing personality, or maybe like me you’d say it’s your muscular physique (just kidding!).

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Every one of us has the exact same powerful tool. We have different IQs, different personalities, different body shapes, different backgrounds, different life experiences…so how can with all of these differences we all be in possession of the same powerful thing?